Identifying a Queer-Affirmative Therapist: Key Questions to Ask
Finding a truly queer-affirmative therapist is crucial for LGBTQ+ folx seeking supportive and effective mental health care. In a time when anyone can stick a rainbow on their website or list sexuality as a specialty, it’s so important to ask potential therapists about their background and experience with providing Queer-Affirmative Therapy before diving into the therapeutic work. Here are some important questions to help you determine if a therapist is genuinely affirming:
Identity and Experience Questions
Professional Background
What is your experience working with LGBTQ+ clients?
Have you received specific training in queer-affirmative therapy?
Do you have expertise in working with diverse sexual orientations and gender identities, including mine?
Approach to Identity
How do you understand and support gender identity and sexual orientation?
How do you approach discussions about sexuality and gender?
Can you describe your perspective on the diversity of gender and sexual experiences?
Practical Approach Questions
Therapeutic Methodology
How do you ensure a safe and non-judgmental space for LGBTQ+ clients?
What strategies do you use to address internalized biphobia, transphobia, and homophobia?
How do you handle potential microaggressions or systemic oppression in therapy?
Cultural Competence
How do you recognize and address intersectionality in your practice?
Are you familiar with the unique challenges faced by different LGBTQ+ communities? What about mine in particular?
How do you stay informed about current LGBTQ+ issues and experiences?
Specific Scenario Questions
Relationship Dynamics
How do you support clients exploring their sexual or gender identity?
What is your approach to working with polyamorous or non-monogamous relationships?
How do you handle therapy for couples with diverse gender identities?
Personal Boundaries
Are you comfortable using my pronouns or discussing intimate aspects of LGBTQ+ experiences?
How do you handle potential personal biases that might affect therapy?
Can you share about your own identity or political beliefs to help me feel more comfortable?
Red Flags to Watch For
Attempts to "change" or "heal" sexual orientation or gender identity
Discomfort with LGBTQ+ terminology or using incorrect pronouns with you
Apparent lack of understanding about the complexity of gender and sexuality
Making assumptions about your experiences
Additional Considerations
Check their professional credentials and any additional LGBTQ+ training
Look for therapists who are actively involved in or supportive of LGBTQ+ communities
Consider therapists who identify as queer or have expertise in queer issues
Remember, a truly queer-affirmative therapist will welcome these questions and be transparent about their approach, experience, and commitment to providing supportive, inclusive care.
Written by Dr Megan Mansfield (PSY31497), Clinical Psychologist and Queer Affirmative Therapist . If you’re ready to begin your journey or have some questions about the process, schedule a time to talk with Dr Mansfield here.